My daughter is a hugger. Always wanting a hug.
I know that hugging, and showing affection is important.
I understand that as her Dad it is important for me to show her physical expressions of love and affection.
Often, I sadly (and shamefully) confess, I act like I am doing her a favor when I give her a hug when she asks….
“Interesting fact: to be most effective at optimizing the flow of the chemicals oxytocin and serotonin – which boost mood and promote bonding – hold a hug for at least six seconds.”
Perhaps she is actually doing me the favor.
Hug those around you.
May 24, 2009 at 12:26 am |
I never knew a hug should be at least six seconds……I will have to give this idea a rigorous testing today with my kids
May 26, 2009 at 8:09 pm |
Wow, this made me weepy with happiness. I need more hugs. I have to force my mom to give them most of the time, but I think I’ve been training her well.
May 29, 2009 at 7:23 am |
She is… she is… be more appreciative! I’ve had to tell my cat that hugging is paying the rent so I get one a week grudgingly, her sister though would rather be evicted and go back to the cat shelter than hug me…
May 29, 2009 at 2:05 pm |
Here is a followup to this post–
I have always understood that giving affection is important; but learning about the 6 seconds has changed the way I hug my children. 1) I do not deny them when they ask for a hug. And 2) I hug them longer.
I think it benefits us all.